If I have a problem with how much I use my phone, should I get help and solve it before I try to help my teen or tween make better decisions?

You could learn to make better decisions together! Go to your teen in humility and tell them your eyes have been opened to your concerns about screen time and you want to try to make better decisions. Ask them if they want to join you. Here's a quiz from Arlene Pellicane that can help you both consider if you are addicted to your screens.