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We Believe "It's Great to Be a Girl!"

...But letters from mothers and teens illuminate a pansexual trend.

In 2019, I was invited to Dr. Peter Jones’ truthXchange, a by-invitation-only symposium of leading Christian thinkers selected due to their research and expertise on the topic to be discussed. That particular year, the conversation was focused on how to speak about binary truth concerning sexuality and gender. This strategic summit of researchers and writers was gathering in preparation for the projected non-binary morality earthquake predicted. They said it would happen “soon.”

I remember sitting there soaking in the lectures of much brighter scholars than myself and barely understanding what they were saying. It all sounded so dark. How could what they were predicting possibly happen in my lifetime?

It has happened.

The dark battle against God’s binary design of gender—two biological sexes—is assaulting the minds of our children and grandchildren. And we are feeling it intensely as a ministry team.

A few weeks ago, I received an email with the pleading of a mom’s heart:

“I am reaching out to ask if you would pray for my daughter who is now 15. We spent much of this last year just trying to keep her alive as we journeyed a road of depression, self harm and suicide. The enemy's grip on our girl is overwhelming. Just a week ago she came to us to share that she is pansexual. We are now journeying through what it means to love her and care for her and walk down this new - very unfamiliar - very heartbreaking road.”

Sadly, I’m getting letters like this on a regular basis. Non- binary pansexuality is not a fringe concern, but a growing trend amongst teens. It is the idea that you are attracted to anyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Demi Lovato and Miley Cyrus identify as pansexual. Here’s how Cyrus explains pansexuality:

"I am literally open to every single thing that is consenting and doesn't involve an animal and everyone is of age. I don't relate to being boy or girl, and I don't have to have my partner relate to boy or girl."

Today’s teens face the pressure to explore non-binary pansexuality the way that teens in the 1980s felt pressure to have sex with someone of the opposite gender. In 2016, the percentage of teens identifying as pansexual was so low that it was unreported in a Gallup poll. Today about 14% of teens say they are pansexual, and this is growing exponentially.



*29-year-old Paige Weslaski hosted a study for 30 teen girls using Lies Young Women Believe and then a group of 8-12-year-old girls (pictured above) as they studied Lies Girls Believe this summer.


Let me be honest, at times it can all be overwhelmingly dark and discouraging. Do you feel it, too? Today I want to invite you to pause and remember this good news:

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him was not any thing made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

JOHN 1:1-5

The darkness in our world cannot overcome the Light of Jesus Christ and the hope that His death and resurrection brings to this broken world. And we, the team at True Girl and Born to Be Brave, will keep shining that Light!

I received another message recently from a college junior who shared how our resources re-directed her from confusion regarding gender and sexuality. She wrote:

"I attended a couple True Girl conferences in Atlanta. I then went to public high school and started walking in sin. I lost sight of my identity and didn’t know who I was. I was in an unhealthy, codependent relationship with a girlfriend...and the Lord loved me too much to leave me in that. Last summer during quarantine, my friend and I walked through your book, Get Lost: A Girl’s Guide to Finding True Love. I am now in a study with the same friend, walking through your first book, And the Bride Wore White. AND I am in a healthy, surrendered, relationship with a man who loves Jesus. I never would have imagined being here three years ago!"

The darkness cannot overcome the Light!

Teaching the next generation what the Bible instructs about the importance of gender and sexuality does break through the confusion and darkness. And, we believe it’s a critical piece of our Christian theology. The Bible teaches us that our gender is a significant way in which we glorify God and reflect His image in this dark world. (Genesis 1:27; I Corinthians 6:12-20) That’s why this topic is one we are strategically entering into as we bring tweens and their parents closer to each other and closer to Jesus Christ.


*Elizabeth Knottnerus (and her mom Evie) went on an adventure with God in October using the True Girl Subscription box which taught tweens about the Great Commission.



Will you help us keep the Light of biblical truth shining in our world?

I’m so grateful for how you’ve helped us maintain ministry stability through 2021. At a difficult time in world history when the ministry should have faltered, you stood with us and God has increased our outreach. Thank you! Within the last 12 months we’ve experienced growth in these areas:

  • Writing and offering online Bible studies for all ages. Over 10,000 have studied with us online and tens of thousands are digging in on their own.
  • Curating an all-new True Girl mom+daughter discipleship subscription program. We’re currently providing daily discipleship for nearly 1,500 moms and daughters.
  • Producing an all-new True Girl podcast in partnership with Revive Our Hearts. This is in addition to my participation in three other Revive Our Hearts podcasts including Grounded and Revive Our Hearts Weekend reaching millions.
  • Creating two Born to Be Brave father+son discipleship boxes. Our first sold out so be sure to grab the current one in time for Christmas!
  • Beginning to offer online parenting workshops and special events to give you and your children biblical perspectives on contemporary issues.

And we’re not just growing here in North America! Across the globe, we are experiencing rapid increase in our reach, especially in Latin America and South Africa. This demands that we expand our team, develop more content and improve our online broadcasting space.

As you consider end-of-year, tax-deductible gifts, we ask that you will stand with us as the Lord expands the ministries of Pure Freedom. Would you prayerfully consider helping us reach this $150,000 goal so we can finish the year strong and enter 2022 armed to carry the Light of the World?

Merry Christmas!