The Most Important Thing To Tell Your Daughter About What She Wears

By Dannah Gresh

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By Dannah Gresh, Founder of True Girl

“There’s not a square inch in the whole domain of human existence over which Christ, who is Lord over all, does not exclaim, ‘Mine’!” 

— Abraham Kuyper, Dutch Theologian

I detest legalism, and I often hear obsessive conformity to rules when some people within the Christian community talk about the way women present themselves. That’s not to say God doesn’t have guidelines for us, but we’re awfully good at adding to them. That’s part of what gave me pause when it came to surrendering my wardrobe to Jesus.

I also like fashion! And I think that our desire to express our beauty comes from God. Look at a rainbow or sunset, and you will see His passion for expressing Himself with beauty. We women got a big dose of that, and I think we should celebrate the Truth that we are masterpieces created by God (Eph. 2:10).

My resistance to letting God have authority in the way I dress ended many years ago when my publisher asked me to write about modesty. This opportunity made me wonder: What do I believe about clothing and how we’re meant to wear it?

At the time I was a mother of a young girl who I felt was being pressured to grow up too fast. (Why did she need name brand clothing and eyeliner before she was even a teenager?) I was just beginning to walk a tightrope of questions like:

  • How do I help her experience body confidence and avoid body image issues?
  • Does the way my daughters dress matter?
  • Can I teach modesty without body shaming?

I dug into social science first, to see what the data could tell me. The research revealed that some types of fashion and beauty products—and the marketing associated with them—did, in fact, put girls on a conveyor belt to body image issues and eating disorders. That was not something I wanted for my girls. 

I decided to examine the Scriptures but only found a few verses that directly addressed the topic of modesty. However, I noticed the Bible had a whole lot to say about clothing starting in Genesis. When Adam and Eve sinned, they became aware of their nakedness and experienced shame. God “clothed them” with the skin of an animal (Gen. 3:21). This occurs in proximity to a Bible verse theologians call the protoevangelium, which means “the first gospel” (Gen. 3:15). I have come to believe that God’s gift of clothing represents the way God meets us in our shameful, sinful condition and covers us through a sacrificial death. Our wardrobe has the potential to display the presence of the saving work of Jesus Christ.

Clothing has the potential to declare “the gospel is here.”

That's the most important thing you can tell her about what she wears.  And it is essential to consider what we believe about clothing. This is especially true if you are a mother or influencer because you are certainly embedding your belief—either intentionally or unwittingly—into those who look to you for understanding about their faith. Both our example and our conversation have to represent God’s heart accurately.

If our lives—and those of our girls— are going to please God, they have to be adjusted to His authority in everything. That includes what we wear. Even our clothing must be submitted to the ownership of the One who paid a blood price for us. 

So I've taken time to write my theology of clothing. I hope it makes you want to clothe your heart in a way that honors Jesus. He sure deserves it.

Clothed in Dignity is a magazine-style booklet to help you explore what you believe about clothing, dignity, beauty, and how we dress.  Each article answers questions like these:

  1. Whose Idea Was Clothing?
  2. Why Do We Fight Over What We Wear?
  3. Do We Need More Than a Change of Clothes?
  4. Does God Really Care What I Wear? 
  5. What Does Dignity Look Like?

At the end of each article, you'll find conversation prompts for you and your daughter to discuss the topic of dressing with dignity. Clothed in Dignity was written as a resource for our True Girl subscribers, but this  month we're offering it  as a way to say thank you for a donation of any amount to support the ministry of True Girl. I'd love to send a copy to you.

Get your copy by making a gift of any amount.

As soon as we receive your gift, we'll ship Clothed in Dignity to you!


Our True Girl theme verse:

"So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31,32

Mom, the best way to teach your daughter to live like an authentic True Girl is to live like an authentic True Woman. And to do that, you've got to get your life lined up with the Truth of the Bible. Listen to Dannah Gresh every weekday on Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth's Revive Our Hearts podcast. The program features biblical teaching, interviews that offer godly advice, and other opportunities to abide in God's Word.




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