We Believe "It's Great to Be a Girl!"
But letters from mothers and teens illuminate a pansexual trend is hitting our church-going girls. And hard.
In 2019, I was invited to Dr. Peter Jones’ truthXchange, a by-invitation-only symposium of leading Christian thinkers selected due to their research and expertise on the topic to be discussed. That particular year, the conversation was focused on how to speak about binary truth concerning sexuality and gender. This strategic summit of researchers and writers was gathering in preparation for the projected non-binary morality earthquake predicted. They said it would happen “soon.”
I remember sitting there soaking in the lectures of much brighter scholars than myself and barely understanding what they were saying. It all sounded so dark. How could what they were predicting possibly happen in my lifetime?
It has happened.
The dark battle against God’s binary design of gender—two biological sexes—is assaulting the minds of our children and grandchildren. And we are feeling it intensely as a ministry team.
Last year, I received an email with the pleading of a mom’s heart:
“I am reaching out to ask if you would pray for my daughter who is now 15. We spent much of this last year just trying to keep her alive as we journeyed a road of depression, self harm and suicide. The enemy's grip on our girl is overwhelming. Just a week ago she came to us to share that she is pansexual. We are now journeying through what it means to love her and care for her and walk down this new - very unfamiliar - very heartbreaking road.”
Sadly, I’m getting letters like this on a regular basis. Non- binary pansexuality is not a fringe concern, but a growing trend amongst teens. It is the idea that you are attracted to anyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
Demi Lovato and Miley Cyrus identify as pansexual. Here’s how Cyrus explains pansexuality:
"I am literally open to every single thing that is consenting and doesn't involve an animal and everyone is of age. I don't relate to being boy or girl, and I don't have to have my partner relate to boy or girl."
Today’s teens face the pressure to explore non-binary pansexuality the way that teens in the 1980s felt pressure to have sex with someone of the opposite gender. In 2016, the percentage of teens identifying as pansexual was so low that it was unreported in a Gallup poll. Today this trend is growing exponentially.
Let me be honest, at times it can all be overwhelmingly dark and discouraging. Do you feel it, too? Today I want to invite you to pause and remember this good news:
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him was not any thing made that was made. In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
The darkness in our world cannot overcome the Light of Jesus Christ and the hope that His death and resurrection brings to this broken world. Here's some hope for you, just in case this issue is hitting a little too close to home. I received this message recently from a college junior who shared how our resources re-directed her from confusion regarding gender and sexuality. She wrote:
"I attended a couple True Girl conferences in Atlanta. I then went to public high school and started walking in sin. I lost sight of my identity and didn’t know who I was. I was in an unhealthy, codependent relationship with a girlfriend...and the Lord loved me too much to leave me in that. Last summer during quarantine, my friend and I walked through your book, Get Lost: A Girl’s Guide to Finding True Love. I am now in a study with the same friend, walking through your first book, And the Bride Wore White. AND I am in a healthy, surrendered, relationship with a man who loves Jesus. I never would have imagined being here three years ago!"
The darkness cannot overcome the Light!
Do you have questions about when and how to talk to your children about gender? The topic can be confusing and polarizing, dividing friends and families. If you’re a parent who feels ill-equipped to talk to your son or daughter, we want to help. This workshop will equip you to stand in the conviction of God’s Truth about gender and to reach out in compassion to those who are struggling with confusion. You’ll gain the clarity and courage to talk to your children about a confusing topic.
November 15th • 6:30-8:30 pm ET
An online parenting workshop presented by True Girl
Dannah Gresh is the founder of True Girl (formerly Secret Keeper Girl), a ministry that brings moms and daughters closer to each other and closer to Jesus. True Girl provides connection experiences through books, online Bible studies, and live events. You can learn more about her at dannahgresh.com.